How to talk to a (Fundamentalist) Christian Part I

(originally published at The Goddess)

This article is the first in a four part series.

Part I: Tell it like it is!

The Democrats have now officially lost the second of two illegal elections. We've been licking our wounds, planning our protests for Bush's second inauguration/coronation, and trying not to think about what the next four years are going to be like. Anyway, our problem has been that we won't use the truth. That is the most powerful weapon. If someone lies to your face and you're afraid to call it a lie, it doesn't matter how correct your position or how altruistic your values. You are a coward, and your cause will fail.

This will piss people off, but our biggest failure was not emphasizing Bush's Nazi connections. Not just the origins of his family fortunes, but the Rove playbook as well. "Tell a big lie and keep telling it." - sound familiar? 9/11 conveniently giving them an excuse for curbing civil rights, just like the Reichstag fire. Demonizing a particular group of people. And the real tip off - the nationalism and the religiosity.

"We need believing people." - Adolf Hitler.

Think about it - Americans were signing loyalty oaths to attend a political rally and Kerry never called it fascism. A grieving mother was removed from a campaign stop in handcuffs. One family was ejected for wearing t-shirts that said “Protect our Constitutional Rights


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NanceConfer's picture

poor educational systems

Well, this part caught my eye --

"Everyone is talking about the red states being on the dole, and about the connection to slavery, but they aren't pointing out the most obvious problem here - the poor educational systems."

I'm wondering what you mean by this. We homeschool. Unschool actually. And I'm interested in all sorts of alternative ed ideas.

But I wonder what you are suggesting here. . .

Thanks.

Nance


Morgaine Swann's picture

Well, Nance -

You and I probably won't agree on education matters, but please don't let that distract you from the point of this series. I'm not trying to fix education in this group of posts - I'm trying to get people to understand why people believe in the things that they do and how to approach someone with no capacity for critical thinking. In the South, even the public schools are heavily influenced by religious ideology, and I'm saying that's a problem.

First let me say that no one system is ideal for everyone. I used to think that I'd home school if I had kids, but I now think it's not generally a good idea to have kids in an isolated environment. I know that not all home schooling is that way, and that the kids tend to do very well academically. In too many cases, though, they don't get education, they get indoctrination, so I don't believe in home schooling. I'm not sure what you mean by unschooling, but I'd like to learn, if you have a few minutes to explain.

I cover this in the upcoming sections. I see a big part of our current problem as being a result of people not being taught American history. If you want proof of this, watch The Tonight Show's Jay Leno interview people on the street about history trivia. It's frightening what the average person doesn't know. Too many people are told that this is supposed to be a Christian country, with no input from anyone else to explain to them that this simply isn't true. The culture has an interest in having some standardization of subjects, and also in some diversity of thought. Kids need to be exposed to different people, opinions and different cultures. I'll agree that there are problems with public schools, but I think we should focus on fixing those. (That would be a long article in itself.)

I would prefer that all children be required to attend public school, and leave any alternative religious training or subjects for the parents to arrange on evenings or weekends. I don't believe in private, parochial or boarding schools either. Children should be educated locally, by accredited teachers, until they are well into their teens. This is not only important for social and academic skills, but the school system can also catch early warning signs of abuse or neglect. It also has a "democratizing effect" in that it would help break down elitist social barriers maintained by exclusive schools and Universities. Once in their teens, I'm all for accommodating special circumstances, like schools for the arts, as long as the kids are taught critical thinking, and remain in a diverse environment.

These are just my opinions, and as I said, they aren't the goal of the article. Please read the rest of the series before you decide how you feel about it. This is just an introduction.

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NanceConfer's picture

poor education systems

Well, you're certainly right -- we don't agree about education matters. At all, apparently. Smiling

I am at the very opposite end of the spectrum from you on how much children need to be institutionalized as they learn.

But that isn't the point of my mentioning that I unschool. As you point out, no one way is right for every person. I have no suggestion about how you or anyone else should facilitate their children's learning.

But if you're going to have theories about how all children should be educated, it would be better if you knew more about one of the increasingly popular options -- homeschooling. It is not what you have been taught. Some of us fit the mold you describe but many of us don't. And we don't necessarily fit the "hippie" mold either -- the other stereotype. An increasing number of us are your next door neighbor or that Mom in the suburbs.

Defining unschooling is, to use your words again, a long article in itself. For our purposes here, it might suffice to say it is at the other end of the learning spectrum from the homeschoolers who attempt to replicate school at home.

The specifics about the different approaches to hsing aren't vital here but I would suggest that you include the notion that a growing (but undocumented, thank you very much Smiling ) number of us are liberals and some of us are atheists.

So I think in all the "democratizing" you want to encourage, including some of us homeschoolers would be one place to start. I am happy to vote Democratic for many good reasons, but I do hope that more Demoracts and liberals will work to expand their understanding of how diverse the hsing community is.

I look forward to reading the rest of your series. I could not agree more that a "capacity for critical thinking" is vital. We work mightily to instill this value in our children -- yep, Mom and Dad brainwashing the kids. Smiling

Nance

P.S. I agree that my history education is lacking -- my only defense is that I was an A student, in public school. Smiling I am now enjoying "Don't Know Much About History" by Kenneth Davis -- and finally filling in some of the gaps in my knowledge of history.

P.P.S. Links concerning critical thinking -- fyi -- on a website I co-own -- http://www.parentdirectededucation.org/Thinking%20Parent/Thinking%20Pare...


Morgaine Swann's picture

Hey, Nance-

I'm always open to a better idea, even if it doesn't sound like it. I realize that there are certain kids who do better outside the school system - I would have been one of them. My concern is about kids being isolated and taught incorrect information, or abused and no one noticing.
How does the hsing community deal with this? Also, do you see any advantage in most members of a society having at least some common experience? Keep in mind, I would completely remake public schools if I could, and I think that is most likely to happen if people have to deal with them.

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NanceConfer's picture

Hey, Nance-

My concern is about kids being isolated and taught incorrect information, or abused and no one noticing.
How does the hsing community deal with this?

**These are areas that have been addressed by better writers than me, so there's no point in my rehashing what they said. Here are a couple of links, if you have time --

**Thoughts on Protecting Children in Homeschooling Families
http://www.nhen.org/LegInfo/default.asp?id=420

**This is a link to a discussion in preparation for the following panel at AERA --

PANEL DESCRIPTION:

It is not the well-researched areas of academic performance or social adjustment that concern many home schooling critics. Rather, it is the larger issue of citizenship, the “common good,


gardnfev's picture

How to talk to a fundy

Morgaine wrote: I don't believe in private, parochial or boarding schools either. Children should be educated locally, by accredited teachers, until they are well into their teens. This is not only important for social and academic skills, but the school system can also catch early warning signs of abuse or neglect...

Ya, after over 100 years the public schools are doing one shitty job catching abused public school kids.
If you thought about homeschooling, why not do some reading? The socialization issue and some of your other generalizations on homeschooling could use some updating.


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I've done some reading.

And I'm sure I'll do more, but the conclusion I've reached is that it takes a village to raise kids and the best use of village resources is to have all of the passion and creativity of concerned parents - as well as their tax dollars - focused on the local school. A school is only as good as its teachers AND students AND parents.

Also, it's impossible in a blog post to cover a subject with any great depth. People will tend to make some generalizations. I'm sure that there are parents who home school who are exemplary. That their kids are well-read and polite, healthy and social, with a wide variety of experiences and resources. By homeschooling their kids, they contain all of that attention and creativity within one nuclear group. Why not expand that group to include other children who might not have such an attentive parent, whose mommy has to work long hours or who might not get the love and support your kids get?

It's not that I haven't thought about this - I've thought about it. I'm Wiccan, and I'd have great reservations about sending a kid with that background into a school full of little wing nuts. Keeping the kid at home wouldn't help the kid learn to cope, or teach the other kids and school officials how to deal with a religious minority. We're trying to have a civilization here and in order to do that we have to work cooperatively. If we want a liberal, diverse and open culture, we need to contribute to it rather than drop out of it.

I hated school - I was harassed by other kids, I was picked on by teachers because I was smarter than the other kids, I was bored with the lessons and I didn't fit in. The only thing worse for me than going to public school would have been to stay home with my crazy mother. The school could have been much better, to be sure, but some kids don't have the luxury of a healthy, happy mom, or a care taker who doesn't have to work full time or two jobs to get by. When you pull out of your community's school you take away two more sets of eyes to catch problems, that much help for those who need it, that much care and creativity for all the kids, and if the repugs have their way, your tax dollars that the schools desperately need.

Education is everybody's problem, and the society has an interest in using its resources fairly to benefit all of its members. Private education is elitist and separatist and that's no way to support a democratic system. We don't need family values - they're artificial, patriarchal systems. We need tribal values where we all work together to make this a better world. That "every man for himself" ethos is what got us into this mess. Replacing competition with cooperation is the best way to fix it.

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Conclusions

It wasn't really difficult to reach that conclusion, was it? Considering where you started.

But that's OK. You have your convictions and beliefs. And you are free to share them with your children (although it's not clear to me whether you have children yet).

The "village" can be found in other places, though. Not only within the walls of my local public school. So my family will continue to make our contributions to the larger world outside of that building.

And we will continue to be liberals who care about children outside of our family.

And, thank goodness, we have the freedom to choose. And change our minds. I know I did. I enrolled my son in ps -- just like all the other Moms when their kids turned 5. He was miserable. We found a better way -- for us.

There's no need for a black and white, one-size-fits-all approach. There is a need for a truly democratic, inclusive Democratic party, though. One that includes hsers, for instance.

So, on to more reading here. Smiling

Nance


Morgaine Swann's picture

All I said was...

that people in this country are poorly educated. Considering that 1 in 6 adults is functionally illiterate, I'll stand by that statement. I never had any intention of getting into the school debate - you got defensive and brought it up, I responded. This was your problem, not mine.

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Illiteracy

is certainly a serious problem. Something all liberals are likely concerned about. Being united by a problem like that seems much more productive, to me, than being divided over how we school.

Nance


bitchlab's picture

Hiya,

Hiya,

You write: "I see a big part of our current problem as being a result of people not being taught American history. If you want proof of this, watch The Tonight Show's Jay Leno interview people on the street about history trivia. It's frightening what the average person doesn't know."

I'm disinclined to view this as a problem. Afterall, what was the situation years ago? Many people were taught some pretty ridiculous things about US history. So, if we've gone downhill from our past, then surely moving from telling lies about history to not knowing much about it doesn't help.

Plus, Jay Leno man on the street interviews aren't representative of the voting population, are they? Voters are typically better off, more educated, white, more apt to be married, older, etc. Maybe you don't care about voters? But I assume you do since you mention the last election.

And, on that note, I really can't say that I agree that voters would like it that we'd emphasized the Nazi Connections.

The democratic party has to be _for_ something and tell a narrative, a story, about why they believe what they believe and how it will help people. Why do I say that? This this study:

http://www.vanishingvoter.org/VV2000/Press_Releases/11-04-00.shtml

One of the things voters hate is the bickering, the demonization, etc. Yeah, I personally love a good fight. That's why I do things like run a blog and posts on blog and get involved with people who have strong opinions. But, we are hardly ordinary USers. Most peple I know tend to avoid confrontation. They like to put their opinion out there and not have it argued with and get offended when others take issues, saying something like "It's just my opinion" as a way to foreclose discussion -- the demand to defend the opinion.

For whatever reason, they don't seem to like to see bickering in the political arena. Lord knows why not...

Plus, I'm a sociologist and I just can't get behind the whole Fascism thing. It would be denying what we know about fascist states, reducing that complex, nuanced research to simplicities.

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Hi, Bitch (?) (is that right? It sounds so rude...)

I'm beginning to regret posting this article in sections. This is an article about moral and ethical development and how it affects the way people think about religion. If political activists don't learn this, nothing is going to change.

I looked at the study you linked to - all that did for me is reinforce the fact that non-voters have a more negative view of voting than voters. I'm saying that the number of voters would be larger if people understood how government works. I also think there's a big difference in what people say in a survey and what they do at the polls.

I do care about voters, but I care more that they tend to be older, white, and educated - meaning that they're a product of a stronger educational system than younger, poorer, non-white people had. By not voting, younger people and minorities are accepting the status quo. Women in this country endured torture in American prisons to win the right to vote. African Americans risked their lives to vote until very recently. Now most people can't be bothered to show up. That's a huge change and rich white men are getting even richer because of it. The Right Wing has Michelle Malkin running around promoting internment and Ann Coulter is saying women shouldn't have the right to vote. Alito thinks the birth control pill and IUDs should be illegal. Remember, the Right is disciplined to stay on message - when you start hearing their cheerleaders talk about something, take it seriously, no matter how outrageous.

People in the past certainly did get a skewed view of history, but they got one. The average school kid in the 50's would have been far more likely to know who fought the civil war and why than kids do now. They knew far more about fascism than people do now. Their language skills were better. They had more facts readily available. They had longer attention spans. They had to meet certain standards or fail. Schools became lax in that over the last 30 - 40 years. There's a reason my college required students to sit in a classroom and write an essay before they were allowed to graduate, and the reason is that there were kids in the past who had graduated without knowing how to read. That is not going to create an informed electorate.

Are you familiar with Britt's article about the 14 characteristics of fascist governments? America under the Bush regime meets all 14 criteria. I think Americans are hypnotized by our own mythology. "We could never be fascists - we're Americans!" That's naive and dangerous. How many people have to be rounded up without warrants, attorneys, access to the courts or rights of habeas corpus; beaten to death during torture; how many civilians melted with white phosphorus; how many protesters corraled, silenced and lead away in handcuffs; artists intimidated; media manipulated; elections stolen; hunger strikers force fed; political rallies confined to only one party; how many white supremacists have to patrol the boarder and radicals try to impose a theocracy before it counts as fascism? Because all of that is happening in America or being done by Americans right now. Our government is committing war crimes. It will do no good to learn the "f" word once you're on a train headed to internment or worse. No, I don't think that's an exaggeration, I think its inevitable if something doesn't happen very soon.

As you'll see in Part II, you have to approach voters on three levels - you have to appeal to the reptilian, mammalian and human minds. Not talking about fascism made Kerry look weak. Not calling Bush a liar made him look weak. The Bush campaign kept people in a perpetual state of fear, which short circuits logical thinking. You have to appeal to their survival instincts, add an air of hope and then back it up with new ideas. Kerry had ideas, but he was never able to get their attention the way the Republicans did.

Al Gore was probably the most qualified man who ever ran for President, but he didn't win in a landslide against a guy who presents himself as if he's a retarded cowboy from Texas. Nice trick for a rich guy born, raised and educated in Connecticut. Quite a trip from cheerleading in the Ivy League to clearing brush in Crawford, but when your Dad is the former head of the CIA, you're bound to learn some black ops techniques. If we ever want another Democratic president, we'd better learn a few, too.

Let me know what you think of the rest of the series, OK? Thanks.

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